LCSW, CSAT, CMAT
“I believe that owning our worthiness is the act of acknowledging that we are sacred. Perhaps embracing vulnerability and overcoming numbing is ultimately about the care and feeding of our spirits.”
- Brené Brown, Daring Greatly
Sexual addiction is a complex addiction but there is hope! As a trained Certified Sex Addiction Therapist <http://www.iitap.com/> (CSAT), I have completed training developed by Dr. Patrick Carnes <http://www.sexhelp.com/> which required attendance at multiple training modules and supervision with a CSAT Supervisor. It also requires ongoing education so that ASATs/CSATs such as myself are experts in providing sexual addiction therapy. It is a rigorous process designed to help me best help you.
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Sexual addiction cuts to the heartbeat of love and relationships. It requires hard work to maintain secrets or a double life, fatiguing the sexually addicted person in their everyday life. Perhaps you experience that thoughts about sex take up a lot of your time and have power over your thoughts. Whether it be pornography, compulsive masturbation, online or in-person relationships that are outside of your primary love relationship, or other sexual behaviors that you have difficulty stopping and keep hidden from others, you may feel out of control. Many people recognize that they are wanting or pursuing more extreme behaviors that are beyond the line they wish not to cross. There is help available, proven to restore balance and recovery to people who seek it. You do not need to be a prisoner to your desires. Addiction has meaning for you and learning about what that is unlocks the path to recovery.
Partners of sex addicts often experience their lives turning upside down after learning about the their partner's addictive behaviors and find themselves in major crisis. Perhaps you just found out about your partner's sexually addictive behaviors or maybe you have known about some of them over the years but did not know what they meant. Betrayal causes enormous pain. Partners often react with rage, shock, mistrust, and doubts about body/self-image. You may find that your sexuality and/or sexual desire have been affected or shutdown. Do you feel like you have lost yourself or as though you are going crazy? You are not alone and help is available to you to heal and recover from the effects of sex addiction that has touched your life and most intimate relationship.
Couples who want to recover from sex addiction and stay together need to be open and willing to seek honesty and integrity in all parts of their relationship. Trust needs rebuilding, betrayal needs to heal, and communication needs to be healthy and positive. In sexual addiction boundaries have broken down. You need to clearly know your wants and needs in order to set necessary and healthy boundaries. Anything that suffers a breakdown in boundries suffers. In recovery, you define and redefine what boundaries are, when you need them, and how to set and keep them. This is vital to any positive relationship!