Elana Chasser, LCSW, CSAT, CPTT, CMAT
516.489.2652
Divorce
Are you considering or facing a divorce or separation? Do you feel confused and struggle with questions about how or why your relationship has come to this? If you're navigating a divorce or separation, I'm here to help you work through the pain of losing the relationship you once held dear and had dreams for. Together, we'll aim to restore the clarity that might feel elusive right now.
You might be asking yourself questions like, "How did this happen to me? To us? What initially drew me to this person? What needs was I hoping my partner would fulfill within me? How can I trust myself to make wiser choices in the future? And how do I pick up the pieces of my life to start anew?"
Divorce is undeniably one of the most significant and life-altering events a person can go through. It's a journey that can be filled with complex emotions and challenges. Sometimes, it's a choice we make, while other times, it's a path we feel compelled to walk. Many people find themselves staying in difficult and painful relationships for various reasons. It could be due to financial worries, concerns about their children's well-being, the desire to maintain family stability, or simply the comfort of the familiar. On top of that, there's often the fear of judgment and pressure from the community, family, and friends. People may worry about how their choices will affect their own reputation and that of their family, as well as how it might impact their children's social standing and future. Even when your relationship is difficult, it feels safe because it's what you know. Thinking about getting a divorce can be scary and starting over can seem daunting.
Embarking on a divorce can mean claiming a new identity as a single person, re-evaluating your finances and job status, potentially taking on single parenthood, navigating the world of dating, and adjusting to a new social circle while coping with feelings of loneliness, stigma, and shame. The picture can be overwhelming.
Your journey through this challenging time is a path of self-discovery, and I'm here to offer you support, understanding, and compassion every step of the way.
It's important to remember that no marriage, even one that ends, is without meaning. In our collaborative journey to heal after divorce or through separation, we'll begin by assessing your unique situation and emotions, tailoring our approach to your specific needs. You'll have a safe space to express your feelings, process the grief and loss often associated with these life changes, and reflect on your past relationship and future goals. We'll work on coping strategies, rebuilding self-esteem, and fostering resilience to navigate challenges. Building a support network and achieving closure and forgiveness will be essential. Our goal is to help you embrace a positive vision for the future and find fulfillment in new opportunities and personal growth, fostering a fulfilling life beyond divorce or separation.
Are You Looking To Heal Your Relationship After Betrayal?
With over 30 years of clinical practice and having had the privilege of working with many individuals and couples, I've consistently witnessed the incredible drive people have to find relief and heal their pain. It's truly remarkable how we can transform our lives.
If you've noticed patterns in your choices or behaviors that aren't serving you or helping you reach your goals, it's important to approach them with curiosity and compassion. The good news is that these patterns can change!
My approach is rooted in encouragement and support for your growth and healing journey. Together, we will align our efforts with your personal goals to enhance your overall quality of life and your relationships. You're not alone in this, and I'm here to walk this path with you, guiding and supporting you every step of the way.
Kind Words
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I sought help from Elana because I was in tremendous pain after discovering my husband's addiction. Every minute of my life was filled with anger. Elana helped me see that I wasn't responsible for his problem or fixing it. Elana showed me how to find the strength and courage to feel and get past the pain, and to deal with life. As I healed, my relationship healed, and today my husband and I have a loving relationship built on a new trust and faith in the future together.
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Reaching out to you, Elana, in my darkest hour of need would prove to be the most positive, life altering decision I had personally made for myself. I was about to embark on a journey that I was not prepared for but knew that I needed because I could no longer control the events surrounding my existence. My life, as I knew it, had become completely unmanageable. I was the Victim and now a proud Survivor of a Sexually Addicted Spouse for 31 years. I would also learn that I suffered from the effects of losing myself and thinking I was “crazy”, which I now know is common for betrayed partners who’ve lived with someone’s active sexual addiction over time.
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Reaching out to you, Elana, in my darkest hour of need would prove to be the most positive, life altering decision I had personally made for myself. I was about to embark on a journey that I was not prepared for but knew that I needed because I could no longer control the events surrounding my existence. My life, as I knew it, had become completely unmanageable. I was the Victim and now a proud Survivor of a Sexually Addicted Spouse for 31 years. I would also learn that I suffered from the effects of losing myself and thinking I was “crazy”, which I now know is common for betrayed partners who’ve lived with someone’s active sexual addiction over time.
Immediately upon our first meeting, I knew that I could safely tell you “My Story” to which I had never told a Sole. There was no judgement, nor did I ever feel judged. I felt safe, cared for, supported, validated, respected and seen for the first time.
The pieces of my life that had destroyed me and shattered my world would start to come together. I would learn to deal with truths I never acknowledged or understood. I would learn to dig deep and let the emotions that had been buried so deep within me in order to survive in my daily existence come out in order for true healing to begin. I felt challenged after each session and eager to put the work in to succeed in order to never return to the broken individual I was when we first met.
I have been seeing you for the last 18 Months and continue to ensure that I am and remain the healthiest version of my new found Self. I am still challenged, learning, and loving life in the most authentic way. I am in recovery, have recovered a sense of my Self, and have truly broken the cycle.
I have thanked you personally over and over again for truly saving my life. I am always taken aback by your response which is that “I am honored you chose me to share your story and be on this journey with you”. It is always said with complete sincerity.
My success to learning how to overcome all the Trauma has come from your guidance, love and support. I could never thank you enough for what you have taught me, how you have inspired me, and continue to help make me the best version of myself each and every day.
If all the pain that I have endured was necessary to find you, in order for you to help evolve me in to who I am today.................Then it was all worth it.
Amy -
Thank you for being there for me during my times of need and always. Thank you for believing in me and helping me become the best version of myself. ‘
Anonymous
Elana Chasser,
LCSW, CSAT, CPTT, CMAT
About Elana Chasser
Working as clinical social worker for over 30 years.
Work history: Residential Treatment Facility for emotionally troubled adolescents, domestic violence shelter, outpatient mental health clinic – supervisory role, private practice since 2005.
LCSW Licensed-Clinical-Social-Worker
CSAT Certified-Sexual-Addiction-Therapist
CPTT Certified-Partner-Trauma-Therapist
CMAT Certified-Multiple Addiction-Therapist
Licensed in:
New York and Massachusetts
Elana Chasser, LCSW, CSAT, CPTT, CMAT
516.489.2652