Elana Chasser, LCSW, CSAT, CPTT, CMAT
516.489.2652
Sexual addiction can deeply affect your love, life, and relationships, requiring a lot of effort to keep secrets or lead a double life, which can be exhausting and lead to devastating hardships. You might find that thoughts about sex consume a significant part of your day and have a powerful hold over your mind. Whether it's an issue with pornography, compulsive masturbation, engaging in online or in-person relationships outside your primary partnership, or other behaviors that you struggle to control and keep hidden, it can make you feel like you're losing control. Many individuals realize that, over time, they're drawn to more extreme behaviors that cross the boundaries they want to maintain.
While addictive behaviors cause pain, addiction is really about the avoidance of feeling pain! Behind addiction, there's often hidden trauma, and it is vital to realize that the addiction is actually an attempt to ease or numb the deeper emotional pain that's already there. It’s been used as your best, perhaps favorite strategy to temporarily find relief from the distress and discomfort that stems from underlying trauma or emotional wounds. This understanding is a compassionate and empowering realization. It allows you to acknowledge that addiction, while problematic, is a strategy that you discovered, maybe long ago, and used in response to deep-seated pain. By addressing the root causes of addiction and healing the underlying trauma, you will open the door to true recovery and a path towards lasting relief and well-being. Recognizing the connection between addiction and emotional pain is a pivotal step in your journey towards a healthier, happier life.
Realizing and admitting these challenges to yourself is an extremely courageous step towards finding healing and regaining control over your life and relationships. There is help available and it's proven to bring back balance and recovery to those who seek it. You don't have to be a prisoner to your desires. Your addiction itself has meaning. Understanding that meaning is the key to your path to recovery and to living your life happily, joyous, and free.
With over 30 years of clinical practice and having had the privilege of working with many individuals and couples, I've consistently witnessed the incredible drive people have to find relief and heal their pain. It's truly remarkable how we can transform our lives.
If you've noticed patterns in your choices or behaviors that aren't serving you or helping you reach your goals, it's important to approach them with curiosity and compassion. The good news is that these patterns can change!
My approach is rooted in encouragement and support for your growth and healing journey. Together, we will align our efforts with your personal goals to enhance your overall quality of life and your relationships. You're not alone in this, and I'm here to walk this path with you, guiding and supporting you every step of the way.
I sought help from Elana because I was in tremendous pain after discovering my husband's addiction. Every minute of my life was filled with anger. Elana helped me see that I wasn't responsible for his problem or fixing it. Elana showed me how to find the strength and courage to feel and get past the pain, and to deal with life. As I healed, my relationship healed, and today my husband and I have a loving relationship built on a new trust and faith in the future together.
Reaching out to you, Elana, in my darkest hour of need would prove to be the most positive, life altering decision I had personally made for myself. I was about to embark on a journey that I was not prepared for but knew that I needed because I could no longer control the events surrounding my existence. My life, as I knew it, had become completely unmanageable. I was the Victim and now a proud Survivor of a Sexually Addicted Spouse for 31 years. I would also learn that I suffered from the effects of losing myself and thinking I was “crazy”, which I now know is common for betrayed partners who’ve lived with someone’s active sexual addiction over time.
Thank you for being there for me during my times of need and always. Thank you for believing in me and helping me become the best version of myself. ‘
Anonymous
Reaching out to you, Elana, in my darkest hour of need would prove to be the most positive, life altering decision I had personally made for myself. I was about to embark on a journey that I was not prepared for but knew that I needed because I could no longer control the events surrounding my existence. My life, as I knew it, had become completely unmanageable. I was the Victim and now a proud Survivor of a Sexually Addicted Spouse for 31 years. I would also learn that I suffered from the effects of losing myself and thinking I was “crazy”, which I now know is common for betrayed partners who’ve lived with someone’s active sexual addiction over time.
Immediately upon our first meeting, I knew that I could safely tell you “My Story” to which I had never told a Sole. There was no judgement, nor did I ever feel judged. I felt safe, cared for, supported, validated, respected and seen for the first time.
The pieces of my life that had destroyed me and shattered my world would start to come together. I would learn to deal with truths I never acknowledged or understood. I would learn to dig deep and let the emotions that had been buried so deep within me in order to survive in my daily existence come out in order for true healing to begin. I felt challenged after each session and eager to put the work in to succeed in order to never return to the broken individual I was when we first met.
I have been seeing you for the last 18 Months and continue to ensure that I am and remain the healthiest version of my new found Self. I am still challenged, learning, and loving life in the most authentic way. I am in recovery, have recovered a sense of my Self, and have truly broken the cycle.
I have thanked you personally over and over again for truly saving my life. I am always taken aback by your response which is that “I am honored you chose me to share your story and be on this journey with you”. It is always said with complete sincerity.
My success to learning how to overcome all the Trauma has come from your guidance, love and support. I could never thank you enough for what you have taught me, how you have inspired me, and continue to help make me the best version of myself each and every day.
If all the pain that I have endured was necessary to find you, in order for you to help evolve me in to who I am today.................Then it was all worth it.
Amy
Elana Chasser,
LCSW, CSAT, CPTT, CMAT
About Elana Chasser
Working as clinical social worker for over 30 years.
Work history: Residential Treatment Facility for emotionally troubled adolescents, domestic violence shelter, outpatient mental health clinic – supervisory role, private practice since 2005.
LCSW Licensed-Clinical-Social-Worker
CSAT Certified-Sexual-Addiction-Therapist
CPTT Certified-Partner-Trauma-Therapist
CMAT Certified-Multiple-Addiction-Therapist
Licensed in:
New York and Massachusetts
Elana Chasser, LCSW, CSAT, CPTT, CMAT
516.489.2652